June 28 – Stonewall Riots

Gay bars are typically viewed as the safe space for the LGBT community.  This is why events like the Pulse shooting affect the community on such a deep level.  Not only because the community reels as a whole in experiencing such a great loss of life, but because additionally the spaces which we once thought were safest for congregation were taken from us in those moments.  Another example of this type of experience in history, is one of the galvanizing events of the LGBT rights movement.  Today happens to the be the anniversary of the start of that chain of events, so for today’s days of pride posting we will talk about the Stonewall Riots, and their place within LGBT history.

Chances are no matter how involved in LGBT history you are, you have at least heard of the Stonewall Riots.  More than likely you also know that the riots were a moment that more wholly began the LGBT community fighting back and demanding rights.  However, many do not know the whole story behind the Stonewall Riots more than that.  Let’s start by laying a scene down for you, the reader, to imagine how life might have been like during this time.  It’s a warm night in June 1969.  New York City.  The village is alive with activity, not much differently than it is today.  The city has a hum about it, you can feel the vibration, you can feel the power of the city all around you.  You’re young, you’re gay, and you have a heaviness to you as a result.  You know that solicitation of homosexual relations is illegal.  As a homosexual this puts you at a high risk, you cannot just look for someone off the streets for fear that you might be blindly taken by the police force as a result.  What do you do?

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June 13 – Couples throughout History Part I

For today’s 30 Day’s posting I thought I would take us through a listing of some of the famous LGBT couples throughout history.  It is important to remember with this posting the older the couple the more the evidence in support of the LBGT relationship is deemed as circumstantial at best.  Many of the accounts of these relationships from the past focus on the stories told by those around the couple, or by the letters which are left between the two after the times of their deaths.  Either way it seems to be a fascinating experience to be able to look back through time and find couples.  It is important, because homosexuality is not a new experience, it did not just pop up in contemporary society.  When you take the time to look and research you can find homosexuals throughout time, and some of those were rather influential people.  Remember our past, so we can build our future!

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June 12 – Prideful Reflections

Well hey there everyone, if you haven’t noticed I have been a bit absent the past few days on these posts.  If you did indeed notice this there are multiple reasons why! First I was gearing up for Pride weekend with some of the most amazing people down in D.C., secondly, I knew that today’s post was coming, and that it would be rough to get through.  As such I gave myself the extra time to really think through everything and be able to write this post.  I’m going to say that I’m attempting to write this without crying, but if you know me you know I’m one of the most emotional people out there and that crying is going to happen.  So, as I sit here writing, I’m going to give you the June 12 30 Days of Pride: Prideful Reflections.

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San Francisco’s Doodler Killer – June 6

Friends who know me well know that I have a penchant for True Crime stories.  This is compiled by the fact that my favorite podcast currently is entitled, “My Favorite Murder (MFM)!” Shout out to Karen and Georgia for bringing true crime back into fashion, and making people not so afraid to talk about the darker portions of life.  This is not a promo for them, but seriously if you have a love of true crime and learning more about those types of stories I highly recommend this podcast because not only is it educational, but both of these women are hilariously amazing, and Murderinos (fans of the podcast) are also an amazing group of people! That being said, today’s supplement to the 30 days of Pride project will be a true crime story.  If true crime is not your thing, and you don’t like learning about murder or death or anything of the like – well I highly suggest you turn back now as this posting will not be your cup of tea!  In homage to the podcast this post will be written in the style of MFM, this means that there will be swearing ahead, as well as details about a dark and twisted and also unknown history of the LGBT community.

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Spotlight: Leonard Matlovich – June 5


US Air Force Technical Sergeant Leonard P. Matlovich was born in Savannah, Georgia on July 6, 1943.  He was the son of career Air Force sergeant and spent most of his early life living on military bases primarily in the Southern United States.  Matlovich as well as his sister were raised in the Roman Catholic faith, in the segregated south.  “He described himself as an ”Air Force brat” who was born in a military hospital in Savannah, Ga., and moved with his parents – his father was a master sergeant in the Air Force -from base to base around the world.  He said he wanted to follow in his father’s footsteps and enlisted in the Air Force in May 1963, when he was 19. He volunteered for assignment to Vietnam and served three tours of duty there” (Narvaez).

It was after returning to the states as a result of this injury that he was stationed at Fort Walton Beach in Florida.  During this time he began to visit gay bars in the nearby city of Pensacola.  In a later interview Matlovich would mention that, “I met a bank president, a gas station attendant – they were all homosexual” (Wikipedia).  Matlovich was beginning the discovery that homosexuals were everywhere, and that the community and life was abundant even if in the closet.  It was when he turned 30 that he slept with another man for the first time, shortly after; he would come out to his friends but would remain closeted to the Air Force, his commanding officer in particular.  “Throughout much of his military career, Sergeant Matlovich said, he lived in fear that his homosexual leanings would be discovered. But after visiting [that] gay bar in Florida and later becoming a practicing homosexual, he decided to test the military’s regulations banning homosexuality” (Naravez).

Due to his experiences with staying in the closet combined with growing up in the segregated south where racism was abundant, Matlovich soon found himself volunteering to teach Air Force Relations classes.  These were a set of classes which were created in the late 1960’s/early 1970’s which were directly related to racial incidents within the military.  Matlovich soon became so successful at teaching these classes that the Air Force soon sent him around the country to coach other instructors.  During this time Matlovich began to develop his understanding that the discrimination he and other gay servicemen faced within the military was similar to those prejudices felt by African American servicemen.

Until 1974 Matlovich was unaware of any form of organized gay rights movement, it was during March of that year that he read an interview with gay activist Frank Kameny which was published in the Air Force times.  Kameny was an activist who had counseled several gay military members over the years.  After reading this interview Matlovich was so moved that he contacted Kameny, who until this time had been looking, “for a gay service member with a perfect record to create a test case to challenge the military’s ban on gays” (Wikipedia).  Months later Matlovich would travel to Washington D.C. and meet with Kameny at his home.  For many months following that original meeting the two would work alongside ACLU attorney David Addlestone to formulate a plan to kick start their fight against the LGBT military policy.

After those months of planning it was decided that on March 6, 1975 Matlovich would deliver a letter to his commanding officer explaining his sexuality.  When Matlovich delivered the letter his commanding officer read it and then asked him, “”What does this mean?” Matlovich replied, “It means Brown versus the Board of Education” – a reference to the 1954 landmark Supreme Court case outlawing racial segregation in public schools” (Wikipedia).  This was the beginning of Matlovich’s fight towards LGBT equality in the military, and the first step in what would make him a torch in the history of the LGBT rights movement.

Soon after this moment Matlovich would face the hardest experience with his coming out and becoming an advocate for the gay rights movement.  He would have to tell his parents about his homosexuality.  “He told his mother by telephone. She was so stunned she refused to tell Matlovich’s father. Her first reaction was that God was punishing her for something she had done, even if her Roman Catholic faith would not have sanctioned that notion. Then, she imagined that her son had not prayed enough or had not seen enough psychiatrists” (Wikipedia).  Matlovich’s father would eventually also find out about his son’s homosexuality as it quickly became public knowledge due to an article on the front page of The New York Times as well as a Walter Cronkite report.  “Matlovich recalled, “He cried for about two hours. After that, he told his wife that, If he can take it, I can take it” (Wikipedia).

By September of 1975 Matlovich who had previously been vehemently protective of his personal life and sexuality was on the cover of TIME magazine with a picture under a banner headline which read, “I am a Homosexual.”  Matlovich had become a face of a still infantile gay-rights movement.  “TIME readers responded to the cover with letters that ranged from calling him “a disgrace to the uniform of an honorable service” to noting the irony of a world where you can “be highly decorated for killing thousands of your fellow men and be drummed out of the corps if you dare to love one” (Rothman).


During this time Matlovich also began his hearings for administrative discharge from the air force.  It was during this time that an Air Force attorney asked him if he would sign a document pledging to never practice homosexuality again in exchanged for being allowed to remain in the Air Force.  Matlovich refused.  Despite all of the work Matlovich had made in his career including his tours of Vietnam, his perfect record as a serviceman, and his training’s with the relations classes the panel ruled that Matlovich was unfit for service and recommended him for general discharge.  His base commander would then argue for this to be upgraded to an honorable discharge noting his successes and service.  The secretary of the Air Force agreed, and in October of 1975 Matlovich was discharged from the United States Air Force.

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Matlovich then began the long process of suing for reinstatement and over the next five years the case moved back and forth between District and circuit courts. “When, by September 1980, the Air Force had failed to provide U.S. District Court Judge Gerhard Gesell an explanation of why Matlovich did not meet its criteria for exception (which by then had been eliminated but still could have applied to him), Gesell ordered him reinstated into the Air Force and promoted” (Wikipedia).  Instead the Air Force offered Matlovich a settlement.  Convinced that the Air Force would just find another reason to discharge him if he fought to be reinstated, he instead accepted the settlement.  This settlement was a figure, based on back pay, future pay, and pension which amounted to the total of $160,000.

Once the case became public activist groups called upon Matlovich to help with fundraising and advocating against discrimination; the two biggest causes being the fight against Anita Bryant in Miami and John Briggs in California.  Over this time Matlovich was a dedicated advocate for gay rights, even “running for the San Francisco public office that had once [belonged to] Harvey Milk” (Rothman). In 1981 Matlovich found himself moving to the Russian River town of Guerneville, where he used the proceeds of his settlement to open a pizza restaurant.  During the height of the HIV/AIDS outbreak in the US Leonard found his personal life being swept up in the hysteria of the virus and h soon sold his restaurant, and moved to Europe for a few months.  While living in Europe the grave of the joint lovers Gertrude Stein and Alice B Toklas as well as Oscar Wilde and it was then that Matlovich had the idea that the United States needed a gay memorial of some form.

After this realization he moved back to the United States briefly living in D.C. before moving to San Francisco where he would begin selling Ford Cars and eventually be again heavily involved in gay rights causes and fighting for adequate HIV-AIDS education and treatment.  In 1986 Matlovich fell ill with a cold he could not seem to shake, when he finally visited a physician in September of that year he was diagnosed with HIV/AIDS.  He became too weak to continue his work with the Ford dealership, and would eventually become one of the first to receive AZT treatments; however, his prognosis was poor.  He became a great champion for HIV/AIDS research, and was even arrested protesting at the White House for their inadequate response to the epidemic.  In May of 1988 he made what would be his last public speech, despite his deteriorating health, tearfully on the steps of the California State Capitol during the March on Sacramento for Gay and Lesbian rights he said the following:

…And I want you to look at the flag, our rainbow flag, and I want you to look at it with pride in your heart, because we too have a dream. And what is our dream? Ours is more than an American dream. It’s a universal dream. Because in South Africa, we’re black and white, and in Northern Ireland, we’re Protestant and Catholic, and in Israel we’re Jew and Muslim. And our mission is to reach out and teach people to love, and not to hate. And you know the reality of the situation is that before we as an individual meet, the only thing we have in common is our sexuality. And in the AIDS crisis – and I have AIDS – and in the AIDS crisis, if there is any one word that describes our community’s reaction to AIDS, that word is love, love, love. (Wikipedia).

Less than a month before his 45th birthday on June 22, 1988 Matlovich died due to complications from HIV/AIDS.  Jeff Dupre, a longtime friend of Matlovich, didn’t even know his friend was sick, until it was too late.  Dupre says this of Matlovich, “He … was the epitome of a perfect soldier, one of those people that stuck his neck out, and he was proud to be the person to challenge that law” (NPR).  Matlovich is buried at Congressional Cemetery in Washington, D.C.  His grave is in the same row of graves that houses former FBI Director J. Edgar Hoover.  The epitaph, which Matlovich himself wrote, reads: ”When I was in the military they gave me a medal for killing two men, and a discharge for loving one.”  It was the hope of Matlovich that his grave would serve as a memorial to all LGBT servicemen for future generations.  This has held true to current day, numerous LGBT rights activists have used his grave site for ceremonies.  This includes the wedding of gay Iraq veteran Capt. Stephen Hill and his partner Josh Snyder.


Matlovich donated all of his personal papers and memorabilia to the GLBT historical society which is a museum, archival and research center in San Francisco.  The Society has featured Matlovich’s story in two separate exhibits, he is also memorialized in Chicago’s outdoor museum known as the Legacy walk.  On the 20th anniversary of his death, the then mayor of San Francisco, Gavin Newsom declared it Leonard Matlovich day in the city.  Additionally, there is a bronze plaque in his memory installed near the entrance of an apartment he once lived in in the Castro.  A close friend of Matlovich, Michael Bedwell, has created and curated the website in honor of Matlovich and other LGBT U.S. veterans; this website includes a detailed history of the bans in the military as well as the fights for equality.

“He had the knack for taking your heart and making it catch for a moment. He seemed to make people want to be braver than perhaps they were.”
– Neely Tucker, Washington Post

Works Cited

Leonard Matlovich. (2017, June 04). Retrieved June 5, 2017, from https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Leonard_Matlovich

Narvaez, Alfonso A. “Gay Airman Who Fought Ouster Dies From AIDS.” The New York Times, The New York Times, 23 June 1988, www.nytimes.com/1988/06/24/us/gay-airman-who-fought-ouster-dies-from-aids.html. Accessed 5 June 2017.

Rothman, Lily. “LGBT Military History: Remembering Leonard Matlovich.” Time, Time, 8 Sept. 2015, time.com/4019076/40-years-leonard-matlovich/. Accessed 5 June 2017.

Staff, NPR. “’A Perfect Soldier’: Remembering A Warrior In The Battle Against Homophobia.” NPR, NPR, 30 Oct. 2015, www.npr.org/2015/10/30/452849153/a-perfect-soldier-remembering-a-warrior-in-the-battle-against-homophobia. Accessed 5 June 2017.

Tsgt. Leonard Matlovich, USAF. (2009). Retrieved June 5, 2017, from http://www.leonardmatlovich.com/


Gay and Lesbian Kingdom of the Coral Sea Islands – June 4

The Gay and Lesbian Kingdom of the Coral Sea Islands was founded in the Pride Month, June, of 2004.  This nation was created by a group of gay protesters in response to the news that the Australian Government was not acknowledging same-sex marriages.  This group of protesters chose the Coral Sea Islands Territory as their location for the protest, setting up their capital on the largest of all the islands, Cato.  Dale Parker Anderson was voted as the Administrator of the territory and would later be declared Emperor of the kingdom.  Other than the protesting inhabitants the territory is uninhabited and it is not recognized externally by Australia or by any world government.

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The Sacred Band of Thebes – June 3

What if I told you that within Ancient Greece there was an elite band of Gay lovers who fought as a kick ass unit basically taking names and owning their sexuality and battles? Would you believe it? Well that is exactly what we are going to talk about in today’s 30 Days of Pride history lesson! Buckle up kids, we are about to get into one crazy ride, think the abs and outfits of 300 but with a more badass gay storyline! Without any further ado, I give you:  The Sacred Band of Thebes.

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The Pink Triangle – June 2

As part of the on-going celebrations of June being Pride month, I’ve decided that I am going to offer a 30 days of Pride as part of my own celebration.  This means that each day of June I will be posting a different aspect of Queer history to allow for reflection, education, and in some cases maybe even entertainment.  Unfortunately so much of LGBT history has been covered through the years, and it has only recently really been dived into a deeper and meaningful manner.  My purpose in doing a 30 Days of Pride is to help uncover this history, and hopefully show people some stories they have not previously known, or if they do already know allow them to reflect on it once more.  Yesterday’s post was a series of LGBT pride quotes to start the month, today I am going to choose to talk about a symbol which is deeply steeped in LGBT history, courage, and identification: The Pink Triangle.

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June 1 – Pride Quotes

“It takes no compromise to give people their rights…it takes no money to respect the individual. It takes no political deal to give people freedom. It takes no survey to remove repression.” –Harvey Milk

“Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one’s definition of your life; define yourself.” –Harvey Fierstein

“It takes some intelligence and insight to figure out you’re gay and then a tremendous amount of balls to live it and live it proudly.” –Jason Bateman

“The beauty of standing up for your rights is others will see you standing and stand up as well.” —Columnist Cassandra Duffy

“Being gay is like glitter, it never goes away.” –Lady Gaga

“I believe that no one should ever have to choose between a career we love and living our lives with authenticity and integrity” –Out & Equal Executive Director Selisse Berry

“Being gay is natural. Hating gay is a lifestyle choice.” –John Fugelsang

“Understand that sexuality is as wide as the sea. Understand that your morality is not law. Understand that we are you. Understand that if we decide to have sex whether safe, safer, or unsafe, it is our decision, and you have no rights in our lovemaking.” — Derek Jarman, British filmmaker, died of AIDS

Happy Pride month y’all. No matter what, out or in, this month is ours. Remember those who came before as we will one day remembered as those who came before. We are at the precipice. Now more than ever is the time to continue to fight. Never give up. Never give in. Rise.